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‘I was on Married At First Sight and this is what it’s ACTUALLY like’

Married At First Sight, the Channel 4 show which aims to match people on their scientific compatibility, is the nation’s current obsession.Clark met – and married – Melissa for the first time, surrounded by family and friends (and a camera crew!) in June 2016, when taking part in series two.

Although the general public were rooting for their relationship, Clarissa didn’t quite get their happily ever after. In fact, following their honeymoon in Ibiza, a six-week stint in an Airbnb in East Finchley (paid for by Channel 4), and a month move to Milton Keynes, Clark asked for a divorce at the end of September 2016.

18-months on, he looks back on the experience, and reveals what it’s ACTUALLY like to be on Married At First Sight

‘The advert for a social experiment came up on Tinder’ “I was hungover and flicking through Tinder, and something popped up that said, ‘Do you want to be part of a social experiment with Channel 4?’ On a whim I emailed across a photo, my age, all those standard formalities, and thought nothing of it when I received a response that said, ‘Due to high volumes of applications you probably won’t hear anything, but thank you for responding’. “9am the following Monday, I got a phone call saying ‘Clark, we’re really interested in your profile.

Can you talk us through your story, who you are, all that kind of stuff’.” ‘I didn’t know it was Married At First Sight until I was deep in the process’ “When they asked me the questions, they said, ‘We’re a production company.

We’re doing a screening for a Channel 4 programme. We want to talk to you about you, your dating history, that’s what it’s going to revolve around’. I didn’t know what it was for until after they had tested me for video screening.

You’re far enough into the process not to turn back when they tell you it’s Married At First Sight. “Nobody’s forcing you to go through with the process, but there are definitely pressures. You feel like you’re too far in to back out.

I would talk to people about it and nine times out of 10 they thought it was a terrible idea.” MORE: HOW COUPLES GETTING MARRIED ON THE SAME DAY AS THE ROYAL WEDDING REALLY FEEL ABOUT IT

‘Producers never really explain what the scientific tests are for’ “The science day was, if I’m honest, pretty pointless. I understand it probably all makes sense, but it was never explained to us how it makes sense and how we were matched on the scientific perspective.

They measure your height, your shoulder to waist ratio, the size of your index fingers, all of that, but I kind of felt like, ‘OK, how does this actually have any impact on a future relationship in this day and age?'” ‘The questionnaire that you’re matched on is incredibly detailed’ “It was a 500 question questionnaire that goes through your likes, your don’t likes, all the intricate pieces of information about you.

Your religious views, your political views, what you find attractive, your sexual history, are you sexually active. If you want to match with someone of the same ilk as you, you’d like to think they match you on the same morals and what you’ve said when you’re doing it.” ‘Your social media is hidden during the build up to the show’

“I had no interest in getting to know the other couples. You never meet anyone else in the process – during the science day you meet a couple of other people, but you never meet any of the other couples throughout the whole programme. There’s no crossover.

All your social media is hidden, there’s no way you can find anyone. I had no interest in it, though, because once I watched the programme I knew for a fact I wouldn’t get on with these people and they wouldn’t be my friends – that’s not horrible to them, we’re just very different people.” ‘There’s a small budget for the wedding dress, and stag-dos’

“But there’s no financial gain from going on the show. There’s budget for things – her wedding dress, a small budget for the suits. There’s some money for hen-do and stag-dos, but it was mainly out of my pocket.

I think they put money towards travel or something. But there was genuinely no monetary gain. Lots of people think, ‘No one would do that for free’, but actually I spent quite a lot of money on the process.”

‘You choose the wedding you want from a powerpoint presentation of options’ “There are six options of lots of different things – type of food, music, style and theme of wedding.

Everything that I chose didn’t get picked! Everything was chosen by her. None of my decisions were considered.

From what I understand, Melissa got what she wanted for the wedding – but I believe the wedding day is about the woman anyway, so it was fine.” ‘You can only invite a limited number of people’ “You also have a guest limit – I was only allowed to invite 20 people.

It definitely caused some friction with some of the family members! The whole day for me was a bit of a blur, it happened quickly but not memorably. It’s really hard to explain.

The day started at 9am with my groomsmen getting ready, it didn’t sink in until the taxi on the way there. I was nervous standing in the room waiting to meet her family; my side was packed out with friends and family as much as possible.”

MORE: THIS IS THE NEW FAVOURITE NAME FOR THE DUKE AND DUCHESS’S THIRD CHILD, ACCORDING TO BOOKMAKERS ‘We had to say ‘I Do’ twice for different camera angles’ “Obviously there were production people giving you directions of where to sit, where to stand, where to go on the wedding day.

We had to repeat our lines – our vows to each other – a couple of times, and say ‘I Do’ for different camera angles. “It didn’t ever feel forced, though. I had a great team and camera crew from Channel 4.

They were fantastic. There were times when we got frustrated with each other when they were getting heavily involved when I was trying to chill out for the afternoon, but actually I struck up a friendship with them. After the show, I realised that they were doing it for the show.

They were just doing their jobs.” ‘We both think we were matched with other people before each other’ “They asked me in the questionnaire to define ‘my type’, and you have to detail the height you like, body type, tattoos, all these sorts of things.

I put high on my criteria that they had to be at least 5ft 5″ to 6ft, and Melissa is 5ft. I’m 6ft3″. So I did feel like they hadn’t really matched us on my criteria.

“We both think we were matched with other people before and they pulled out half way through the process. We spoke about it, I genuinely believe that’s the case. When I decided I didn’t want to be with her anymore, it became quite apparent that we weren’t meant to be a match.”

‘You were meant to live in London to apply for the process’ “I think you were meant to live in London to be part of the process, but Melissa didn’t say she was moving back to Milton Keynes in her application. One of the guys was from Bournemouth, one of the guys was from Bromley.

There was no real thought behind where we were living. I think Channel 4 massively messed up because our lives were never going to work together.” ‘We had Skype counselling with the relationship advisor from the show, but it wasn’t very good’

“When we had our first big issue, we did a Skype counselling session with Channel 4’s relationship advisor, Jo. And we talked through and explained the situation to her, and I just didn’t feel supported. I didn’t feel like it was worthwhile, it was rubbish.

It didn’t have any positive impact on the marriage – if anything it made me resent the situation more.” ‘I hadn’t seen her for a year when we got a divorce’

“The divorce was an easy process. I went in to sign a couple of papers in June 2017, and then I had to sign some more in September, and then the divorce went through on November 13th 2017. I didn’t see her in that time at all – the last time I saw her was in October 2016, when she left me in the flat in Milton Keynes.”

‘Channel 4 set budget aside for the divorce’ “You have to let producers know when you want a divorce – budget was already set aside for it. The money was already in place when they put the bid in for the programme.

“You have to legally be married for a year before you can apply for a divorce, so I had to wait until June 19 2017 before I could apply for a divorce. When I sat down with the production crew and explained to them why I was making my decision, they understood, they apologised, they said they were sorry they didn’t support me. There was some support from the relationship counsellor Jo in the beginning, and that was it.”

‘They asked me to go through the ins and outs of the break up on camera’ “During the series, there’s an episode where I was in a pub with my best friend, and before filming started I just lost it and reeled through everything [that had gone wrong in the relationship], and the camera man was like, ‘You need to say this on camera’, and I was like, ‘There’s no way in hell I’m saying all of this on camera.

One, it’ll make me look like an arsehole, and two, I would never want to put Melissa in a situation where it has an impact on her’.” ‘The process never felt fake, but it was very full on for six months up until the wedding, and then no support afterwards’ “It was 100 per cent real.

It was very straight lace. Everything had a process, everything was being done, but as soon as you were married, you were left to your own devices as a married couple for a few weeks. You go on honeymoon, you move back to the apartment they rent for you.

You’re now living with a complete and utter stranger, which is fine, and the camera crew pop in once, twice, three times a week to talk to you to see how everything’s going, but that’s it. “I felt like there should be more to it. I felt like there should be more actions around helping develop the relationship – there was no support [from production] in helping to develop the relationship.”

Married At First Sight Series 3 continues every Thursday at 9pm. MORE: CORONATION STREET STAR ALAN HALSALL SHARES HIS AMAZING HAIR TRANSFORMATION (Via Cosmopolitan UK)

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Stephen Fry announces he has been diagnosed with prostate cancer

QI and The Hobbit star Stephen Fry has revealed the sad news that he has been diagnosed with prostate cancer.The actor and comedian posted on Twitter that “For the last 2 months I’ve been in the throes of a rather unwelcome and unexpected adventure.

“I’m sorry I haven’t felt able to talk about it till now.” In a personal YouTube video to camera, he went into more detail about his diagnosis and treatment: [embedded content]

Fry explained that around Christmas time, he was told that his PSA (Prostate Specific Antigen) was a bit high and had an MRI. At first he didn’t think much of it, but was then recommended to go for a trans-rectal biopsy where it was discovered he had a cancer. In the first week of January, he had his prostate and 11 lymph nodes removed and has since spent the time recovering with friends and family out of the public eye.

“For the moment I am fit and healthy and just wanted to let you know because rumours had started to swirl…. before the gossip gets silly and ill-informed I had decided to ‘come clean’.” The star ends the video by urging men to get their PSA levels checked, and you can find out more from the NHS website, Cancer Research UK and make a donation to prostate cancer research here.

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Asda is ‘now putting Perfect for Proposal’ stickers on its avocados for new trend

Has the world finally taken their love affair with the humble avocado a step too far? Following reports that millennials are popping the question with an engagement ring stuck inside the centre of the creamy fruit, Asda Clapham has introduced a new ‘Perfect for Proposal’ avocado sticker system for select avocados.The proposal trend – which involves cutting an avocado in half to look like a box and then hiding an engagement ring inside – has prompted Asda’s new proposal sticker system which will help Brits to pick the ideal proposal fruit by clearly displaying the perfect avocados to help guide loved-up Brits down the [fruit and veg?] aisle.

The avocados, selected by Adrian Kurzynski, Asda Clapham’s Avocado Expert, are chosen based on an avocado-friendly ‘Four Cs’, designed to reflect the guide diamond experts follow when it comes to ring shopping:

Colour – hue is key. If you’re looking for an avocado to propose with immediately, pick one with dark green to purple-y or brown skin Complexion – firm but malleable outer-casing, free from scratches or blemishes, with a bumpy alligator-like skin will look the part.

Use the thumbprint test to determine firmness MORE: AN EASY TRICK TO LINE YOUR CAKE TIN LIKE A PRO Cut – choose a perfect pear-shaped avocado to slice vertically straight down each side through the middle until you hit the pit, making a symmetrical cut.

To extract the pit, slide a spoon between the seed and the fruit, and gently work it out of the flesh, leaving a perfect circle for the ring to take centre-stage Creaminess – a soft, smashable flesh, but not over-ripe, as it will risk mess on the ring. Best to opt for a firm feel to cushion the ring in place and keep it standing proudly

Mr Kurzynski added: “We want to help ready-to-propose customers find the perfect avocado to make loved ones say, ‘I avocaDO’. Whilst all our avocados are of a high quality and perfect for smashing on toast, it takes a keen eye to identify those that embody the Four Cs, so our new labelling system aims to help make the proposal process that much easier for those following the trend.

“From a soft, yet firm avocado to keep the ring in place, to a perfect pear-shape that allows for symmetrical slicing, our ‘Perfect for Proposal’ sticker system will help the increasing number of avocado proposals go as smoothly as the flesh of the fruit they’re holding.”

Asda’s ‘Perfect for Proposal’ avocados will roll-out from today in its Clapham Junction superstore, with prices starting from the usual price of 50p for a single avocado. We just hope they’re still being eaten afterwards.

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